Why We Need to Feel Heard

Share this & earn $10
The School of Life
Published at : 29 Jan 2021
176192 views
11253
95

Though we all long to have our feelings and needs acknowledged, it seems that nothing is more common than for these to be neglected by people around us. We take so little time to listen to one another and to show that we have absorbed what people have told us. As a result, everyone gets increasingly angry and - deep inside - sad. The answer is to make the art of listening a global priority.
Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: https://bit.ly/2TMs0dT
For books and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: https://bit.ly/2zZ5hnJ
Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: https://bit.ly/3cGgbvC

FURTHER READING

You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: https://bit.ly/2BGovin

“One of our deepest longings – deeper than we even perhaps recognise day to to day – is that other people should acknowledge certain of our feelings. We want that – at key moments – our sufferings should be understood, our anxieties noticed and our sadness lent legitimacy. We don’t want others necessarily to agree with all our feelings, but what we crave is that they at least validate them. When we are furious, we want another person to say: I can see that you’ve been driven to distraction. It must feel very chaotic for you inside right now for you. When we are sad, we want someone to say: I know you’re unusually down and I understand the reasons why. And when we can’t take it all any more, we want someone gently to say: It’s been too much for you; I recognise that so well; of course it has…”

MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE

Visit us in person at our London HQ: https://bit.ly/2BGdXjd

Watch more films on SELF in our playlist:
http://bit.ly/TSOLself

You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: https://www.youtube.com/timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2
Find out how more here: https://support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB

SOCIAL MEDIA

Feel free to follow us at the links below:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/

CREDITS

Produced in collaboration with:

Jesse Collett
https://www.jessecollett.co.uk/

Title animation produced in collaboration with

Vale Productions
https://www.valeproductions.co.uk/
the school of lifeschooloflifeeducation

Quietness And Confidence In Your Storm | Carter Conlon

Quietness And Confidence In Your Storm | Carter Conlon

The Evolution Of CPU Processing Power Part 3: The Origin Of Modern Operating Systems

The Evolution Of CPU Processing Power Part 3: The Origin Of Modern Operating Systems

A Gift to You  | 1 |  kwscm

A Gift to You | 1 | kwscm

Dentist Filling A Cavity Between Teeth

Dentist Filling A Cavity Between Teeth

Knot and Rope Terminology

Knot and Rope Terminology

65 TYPES of COLEUS or MAYANA // VARIETIES. (MAYANA HERBAL PLANTS)

65 TYPES of COLEUS or MAYANA // VARIETIES. (MAYANA HERBAL PLANTS)

Differential Equations of Second Order with constant coefficients

Differential Equations of Second Order with constant coefficients

Reading is Fundamental! From Paris is Burning

Reading is Fundamental! From Paris is Burning

History of Great Britain Crash Course

History of Great Britain Crash Course

Top Female General Physician in Lahore - Dr Fatima Hamdani Talks On Diabetes & Blood Pressure

Top Female General Physician in Lahore - Dr Fatima Hamdani Talks On Diabetes & Blood Pressure

Endless ZOMBIE WAVES Attack Us in NEW Stick War Legacy Mission!

Endless ZOMBIE WAVES Attack Us in NEW Stick War Legacy Mission!

The Law of Favor | Dr. Bill Winston

The Law of Favor | Dr. Bill Winston

A method for sticking to habits

A method for sticking to habits

Makyajlı Skoda Superb 1.5 TSI | Passat'tan iyi mi? | Neden Almalı?

Makyajlı Skoda Superb 1.5 TSI | Passat'tan iyi mi? | Neden Almalı?

Daughter searched for her birth mother but found her father / Fabiosa Animated

Daughter searched for her birth mother but found her father / Fabiosa Animated

Work order, Inventory and Purchasing Software for QuickBooks with KatanaMRP

Work order, Inventory and Purchasing Software for QuickBooks with KatanaMRP

Joyner Lucas & Will Smith - Will (Remix)

Joyner Lucas & Will Smith - Will (Remix)

Why Don't We - Lotus Inn [Official Music Video]

Why Don't We - Lotus Inn [Official Music Video]

How to make more money as a landlord | Payday Payment Plan | Rent Like a Pro

How to make more money as a landlord | Payday Payment Plan | Rent Like a Pro

Interstellar Docking Scene PARODY

Interstellar Docking Scene PARODY

Armed To The Teeth! - Building Bushcraft Log Cabin in the Woods

Armed To The Teeth! - Building Bushcraft Log Cabin in the Woods

Hài Tết 2017 - Phim Hài Tết Enter - Phần 1 - Phim Hài Tết Mới Nhất

Hài Tết 2017 - Phim Hài Tết Enter - Phần 1 - Phim Hài Tết Mới Nhất

Glaucoma 1 | Visual field changes in glaucoma

Glaucoma 1 | Visual field changes in glaucoma

Jungkook is so protective when it comes to Taehyung

Jungkook is so protective when it comes to Taehyung

Customizable top modules give MiR robots flexibility for nearly any tasks

Customizable top modules give MiR robots flexibility for nearly any tasks

Unit 20 Friendship - Story 3: "A Good Friend" by Alyssa Liang

Unit 20 Friendship - Story 3: "A Good Friend" by Alyssa Liang

Low impact cardio AND resistance workout for beginners

Low impact cardio AND resistance workout for beginners

Wááá Én Ezt Nem Bírom

Wááá Én Ezt Nem Bírom

The Story Book Mjane Mweupe 'MAMA WA UGAIDI DUNIANI'

The Story Book Mjane Mweupe 'MAMA WA UGAIDI DUNIANI'

7 Fastest 4-Wheelers in swamp and mud

7 Fastest 4-Wheelers in swamp and mud

It Won't Stop TikTok Dance Challenge

It Won't Stop TikTok Dance Challenge

Schoenberg, piano piece, op. 33b (1931), in entirety

Schoenberg, piano piece, op. 33b (1931), in entirety

What An Institution! The Story of Police Academy (2019) Official Trailer

What An Institution! The Story of Police Academy (2019) Official Trailer

Copper Price/Copper Stocks Explode (Fundamental Analysis)

Copper Price/Copper Stocks Explode (Fundamental Analysis)

SPY  | Elite Trailer | HD

SPY | Elite Trailer | HD

Huawei P50 Pro - Struggling Again

Huawei P50 Pro - Struggling Again

YOU THOUGHT JIMMY WAS SCARY?! WAIT TIL YOU MEET HIS MOM | At Dead Of Night [END]

YOU THOUGHT JIMMY WAS SCARY?! WAIT TIL YOU MEET HIS MOM | At Dead Of Night [END]

How to Develop a Good Research Topic

How to Develop a Good Research Topic

3 Most Desirable Women Of All Zodiac Signs Are You One Of Them ?

3 Most Desirable Women Of All Zodiac Signs Are You One Of Them ?

Everyone CONCERNED as NINJA *ACCIDENTALLY* Goes LIVE on Twitch! - Fortnite Moments

Everyone CONCERNED as NINJA *ACCIDENTALLY* Goes LIVE on Twitch! - Fortnite Moments

秋のメバル特集 第2弾 しまなみ海道編

秋のメバル特集 第2弾 しまなみ海道編

The Black Angels - Currency (Official Video)

The Black Angels - Currency (Official Video)

What’s behind the global chip shortage

What’s behind the global chip shortage

Andrew Bird - Bloodless (Official Music Video)

Andrew Bird - Bloodless (Official Music Video)

Berg - The Chant

Berg - The Chant

У ТЕБЯ ЕСТЬ 5 МИНУТ ЧТОБЫ ПРОЙТИ ЭТО! УГАРНЫЙ ТРОЛЛИНГ В МАЙНКРАФТ

У ТЕБЯ ЕСТЬ 5 МИНУТ ЧТОБЫ ПРОЙТИ ЭТО! УГАРНЫЙ ТРОЛЛИНГ В МАЙНКРАФТ

A Complete Skimmer Replacementwith Bridge and Brick Replacement on a Concrete Swimming Pool

A Complete Skimmer Replacementwith Bridge and Brick Replacement on a Concrete Swimming Pool

Outdoor Bars

Outdoor Bars

SKIN TYPES AND MOST SUITABLE FACE WASHES FOR MEN

SKIN TYPES AND MOST SUITABLE FACE WASHES FOR MEN